Why am I still alone?
LisaDidien
Tuesday, November 06, 2012
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Sudirman Station, Jakarta, was not really crowded on Saturday, November 3rd, 2012, around 11.30 am. I just arrived then asked some people there to get a bus, namely Kopaja P19, a public transportation to M.H Tamrin Road. Sarinah Building was the place that I wanted to go to. There would be a free talkshow about an interesting topic: “Why am I still alone?”.
It’s a sensitive issue, isn’t it? Nowadayas, those are many
people who have this condition and it often become complicated point when
people in ages which commonly are ready to get married but they haven’t got a
clue who is the one to grow old together. So, they take many ways to learn about this
condition to prepare themselves to meet the right one soon, InsyaAllah. This
talkshow was one of the way.
When I arrived at 14th floor of Sarinah Building, though I
was late about 15 minutes, the show hadn’t started yet. A band of young men
performed on the stage.
Around 14.00 pm, the talkshow was started by the host, named
Andra Donata, a man with glasses,has average tall and bright skin, also
humorous. Then, few minutes after the host started the show, the figure of Mr.
Indra Noveldy came out to give and to share about the topic. He’s the star of
the show.
From Mr. Indra Noveldy, the participants of the talkshow (includes
I and two friends of mine) got many new knowledge and advice of this topic. Let me share it here for all
single women and men.
As single persons, do you know what we should do as efforts to find the right one to grow old
together?
- 1. Write down criterias that we want from the one
who will be our soulmate.
Brave to do this first step is a sign we
really know that we are precious to be chosen by the best person. We must think
the long term -for a lifetime- criterias, as we want to marry someone for a
lifetime. Don’t put some criterias that can be expired in short time. The short
term criterias are usually about stuffs of phisycs as main priorities.
- 2. Bibit bebet bobot
It’s about the background of someone,in
example the family of someone that can create someone with his/her quality.
- 3. Prevention is better than cure.
It means that single person must quite
carefully choose the right one. An interview methode can be done as a way to select
the right one. To get ‘bitter’ now is
better than later.
- 4. Get yourself upgraded.
A single person must know how to make
himself/herself better for every single day and it’s a lifetime process.
- 5. Make ourselves worth to be chosen.
A single person must know how to improve
his/her quality so he/she is worth to be chosen by a good woman/man.
- 6. In every process, don’t forget to ask Allah to
get involved.
The last thing but the most important one,
single persons must realize that they are just humanbeing so they must
sincerely ask Allah who has power and decision upon us.
In addition, there are some important notes:
- After writing down the criterias, try to check those points again and ask ourselves: Am I really sure that I can live happily with a person who has those criterias?if not in some points, we can change the criterias. If we are sure, the the next question: do the person who has those criterias has the same feeling with us?
- Choose someone who wants to grow, who wants to struggle, who wants to do efforts to be better person!
- Create yourself as a person who can be really wanted by them, who really search for a lifetime partner in marriage. Let the world see that you are shinning! Write on your mind: everyone who will my soulmate later is the luckiest man/woman.
- The concept of ‘accept me just the way I am’ can be the virus in marriage life. We should see ourselves the way we are, then try to be better person...don’t ask other to accept us the way we are.
- Say that it’s not the way to find the right one by searching the best soulmate, partner for marriage, but try to be the best soulmate, life partner in marriage for someone who will be your right one. Improve your qualities to be chosen as the best person!
